There are a lot of people who find it difficult to love and be loved. Love is not about feeling. The only way anyone gets saved is if God opens our hearts. He takes away the heart of stone and gives us a heart of flesh. If the Apostle Paul had not been mistreated in Acts 16, the jailer would not have been saved. Is is believed that the church at Philippi, in part, begun by this jailer and his family. No one can escape God, we will either face Him as His dearly loved child or as His enemy.
The purpose of the Old Testament is to point people to Jesus Christ. What God has done for us is more than we could ask or imagine. Whatever we know about God's love is only the edge of the surface of the truth. Jesus died was once and for all, not to be repeated. God declared that it is appointed unto people to die once, after that the judgement. Jesus will come to be the salvation to those who are waiting for Him. For those who follow Christ, judgement has already been taken care of because of the cross. We must be looking forward to Jesus' return!
God wants us to be like Him. If we are living like Jesus, we will not fit in and that's more than okay, that is what God is calling us to.